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The Transformational Character Arc Part 8 Personality Types

The Resilient

Yow! You gotta love The Resilient! The Resilient is like the old Timex commercials… They take a licking and keep on ticking.

FOR REAL.

These personality types are those people you know that look like they take a happy pill every morning. The Resilient is a very productive person and able to REALLY solve problems like The Problem Solver but without the emotional fallout if they fail.

The Resilient has a damn good sense of humor… It’s this humor that helps them KEEP ON TICKING. They are very interested in others and in fact really love hearing about you talk about yourself. When The Resilient does feel stressed out, look for them at the gym, the football field, or running i.e., they love to thwart the stress with physical activity.

People are drawn to The Resilient and because of their RESILIENCE, expect them to have a fairly large support network. Everybody just LOVES The Resilient! A goal oriented personality type, The Resilient is ethical and moral… At least they sure as hell try to be. They never try to shirk their responsibility onto someone else if they fuck up.

Having said that, they do have a hard time depending on anyone… It just ain’t in their DNA.

You’ll find The Resilient in just about every walk of life.

The Show-Off

Geez… We all know at least one of these personality types, don’t we? You know… The kind of person that always requires an audience? The kind of person that you feel TRAPPED by? The kind of person you keep fucking walking away from but they just keep on following you and telling you how fucking great they are? LOL.

Quite the immature personality type, The Show-Off could really give a shit about your problems even when they put on their little I REALLY CARE act. LOL. You can sit there and tell them how your significant other just cheated on you, stole all the money from the bank account, changed the locks on the house, and cancelled all the credit cards and you know what The Show-Off’s gonna do?

He or she is going to look at you with glazed over eyes and as soon as you finish talking (or quite likely before), they are going to tell you their own story for the day. They are exceptionally expressive people but that expressiveness can easily turn into aggression. Don’t take The Show-Off to your favorite restaurant unless you’re looking to get embarrassed… LOL. Their expressiveness will make YOUR TABLE the LOUDEST table in the restaurant. All eyes will be upon you! The Show-Off will then attempt to shock their audience with even more shocking expression!

Don’t even bother asking The Show-Off for any kind of real help. They might show up alright but you’ll still end up doing all the work! You and all the rest of your helpers that is… But don’t be surprised if your friend The Show-Off, tries to captivate the rest of your crew with his or her current state of affairs.

Sure, The Show-Off can be fun… But the fun simply doesn’t last very long and before you know it, you’ll be wishing the fun was over. LOL. Being a Show-Off does have its rewards because The Show-Off is too stupid to realize that their friends, family, and associates are sick and fucking tired of being around them. Hence, they’re always around because why?

They need to SHOW OFF!

Even though The Show-Off is an outgoing and an effective speaker, it’s the one on one that can be most annoying. They simply want to monopolize your time so YOU can LISTEN to them and of course, ADMIRE THEM. LOL. Don’t EVEN bother asking The Show-Off if you can borrow anything from them… They’ll just make up yet another fucking story that explains why you can’t borrow whatever it is that you want to borrow so that by the end of their story, the focus is BACK ON THEM!

Don’t you just love it? And you know one of them too…

Don’t you?

Here’s a shocker…

You’ll find The Show-Offs in the acting profession — both film and theater. Since they love to have an audience, look for them in roles where they can be in front of an audience.

The-ultra-feminine

Remember The Man’s Man? The Ultra-Feminine is pretty much the same kind of personality type on the Women’s side of things yet The Ultra-Feminine doesn’t always have to be a woman. If they are women however, they tend to be as extreme a stereotypical woman as possible. Think THE STEPFORD WIVES and you’ve pretty much nailed this personality type for all it’s worth.

The Man’s Man and The Ultra-Feminine often end up together…

Why?

Because they make each other look even MORE like the personality types that they are!

Again, The Ultra-Feminine is a very stereotypical personality type. Helpless. Dependent. Submissive. Modest. Coy. Nurturing. Passive. Naive. Innocent. You name the stereotypical traits — The Ultra-Feminine possesses them.

The good news is that since most women that fall into this personality type end up with The Man’s Man personality type; it’s a WIN-WIN situation! The Ultra-Feminine personality type loves to clean house, take care of errands, rub The Man’s Man’s feet, and pretty much accept just about ANY task The Man’s Man personality type requires of them. If The Man’s Man were to say, “Get me a beer!” — the Ultra-Feminine would of course, JUMP to it but in reality, The Man’s Man would never have to make such a statement because The Ultra-Feminine knows what The Man’s Man wants and is always several steps ahead when it comes to attending to their needs.

The bad news is that The Ultra-Feminine tends to doubt themselves i.e, their self-worth, potential, adequacy, and capabilities which is exactly why they tend to fulfill the barefoot and pregnant stereotype. Most people see The Ultra-Feminine as an insubstantial person so really, nobody ever goes to The Ultra-Feminine for help…

Not REAL help anyway.

At the same time however, they can be quite seductive when they want to be… Flirtation is definitely in their DNA as well as their ability to feed the ego of others.

You’ll often find The Ultra-Feminine in positions where they can nurture and come to the aid of others… Medical and dental assistants. Grammar school teachers. Childcare.

And what else?

Domesticated servant. LOL. I laugh but in reality, it’s kinda sad.

The-victim-type

The Victim-Type is just one huge ball of confusion. Mistrust. Depression. Anger. Pessimistic. Weak. Demanding. Dependent. Just about every time you see or hear from The Victim-Type, you’ll be hearing mostly COMPLAINTS. They complain about EVERYTHING yet they never see fit to make any kind of internal or external change within their sphere of influence…

Why?

Because they like being The Victim-Type. They WANT to be viewed as the the person NOBODY can ever help. Which can be quite frustrating to their family, friends, and associates who DO want to help them.

You can’t.

They like being the VICTIM. They thrive on it because by doing so, they become the center of attention. The center of attention that nobody can do anything about.

They want your pity.

Why?

So they can manipulate you with it. Make you feel guilty about THEIR situation. If The Victim-Type YOU know is really good, they can manipulate you into giving them money, goods, etc. without ever even asking you. You’ll just feel so fucking sorry for them AND their current (which never ends) situation, that you’ll just OFFER whatever they are manipulating you for.

And…

If you do offer and give them that in which you’ve just been manipulated to give, don’t ever expect to get it back! LOL. You offered. An offer isn’t BORROWING. LOL. They might even slip and mention that they COULD pay you back if such and such happens but come on… Such and such ain’t ever gonna fucking happen so FUGHEDABOUDIT.

It’s gone. Live with it. Chalk it up to screenwriting research. LOL. Shit… Maybe you can even get a deduction at tax time!

The Victim-Type always feels as though EVERYONE is mistreating them. They feel that the world owes them a living and often, you’ll see The Victim-Type attempting to bring law suits to those they think can afford to give them that living they think they’re owed. Watch out…

It could even be YOU that they decide to SUE!

Expect your Victim-Type family member, friend, or associate to be in an abusive relationship. They think they deserve it PLUS, it actually gives them more material to keep on manipulating you with. They need and require lots of affection although they rarely ever get it. They also demand LOYALTY and if they think you’ve not been loyal to them, don’t be surprised if they drop your ass like a HOT POTATO!

The Victim-Type tends to take on all kinds of favors and YOU think that’s awfully fucking cool of them, don’t you? When, in reality, they are throwing your ass under the bus to everyone else they know because you’ve burdened them with your favor. LOL.

On top of all that mess, they want to feel safe but they’re not able to make themselves feel safe on their own because of their inner turmoil of self-blame. But even though they obsess with self-blame, they still want us to admire them because of how strong they are to be able to continue to DEAL with their situation.

Didn’t I say a huge ball of confusion?

They will alway try to make YOU and everyone around them feel guilty. You didn’t help them enough. The world hasn’t helped them enough.

You get the picture.

And, even though their current situations totally sucks, they would rather bathe in it than have their significant other, family, friends, and associates abandon them. They cannot live alone. Besides, all that abuse they take, somehow converts itself into a feeling of love and affection and of course The Victim-Type wants all the love and affection they can get. Even if they somehow convert abuse into love and affection.

Remember… No matter what you do, you simply cannot help this person.

You’ll find them everywhere working just about any kind of job. You won’t know right way that they are The Victim-Type. They’ll get you to think you know them and like them before they spring their real world on you.

Whew… I’m glad that was the last one. Just writing it makes me queasy because I happen to know several of these personality types.

In my own family.

Unk

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9 Responses to “The Transformational Character Arc Part 8 Personality Types”

  1. emily blake on Sunday: 15 April 2007|1949

    Dude!

    Finally. I kept reading these and thinking yes.. these are interesting characters but I don’t see me. (and don’t we all really look for ourselves in these personality type thingees?) Then you posted this one.

    I am Resilient. Nailed it. To a T.

    That probably explains why I always feel the need to lecture people on their work ethic.

    Where do you get these anyway? They’re nifty.

  2. Guillermo on Sunday: 15 April 2007|2107

    Is there a test I can take to figure which of personalities I am…If I read all of these correctly I just might be suffering from multiple-personality disorder.

    And unless I’m Sally Field (which I’m pretty sure I’m not), I’d like to narrow it done some.

  3. Ann Wesley Hardin on Monday: 16 April 2007|0240

    Here ya go Guillermo.

    http://www.humanmetrics.com/cgi-win/JTypes2.asp

    Let’s hope the link works. I’m apparenty challenged that way.

    I feel your exhaustion, Unk. The Victims are everywhere. They seem to have mated with the show-offs because I also know lots of weird hybrids of tose two types. Makes me very glad I don’t work in an office anymore.

    Thanks mucho for this series. It’s been most enlightening!

  4. Bridgey on Monday: 16 April 2007|0335

    This whole series is now pinned up next to my computer. The mars bar wrappers, and old cups of tea on my desk are quite jealous.

  5. Ann Wesley Hardin on Monday: 16 April 2007|0614

    Okay, I think I know what’s wrong with FeedBurner, and as usual, it’s not them. It’s ME. Trying this to see if it works.

    I see you’ve gone to moderating comments. Too much Spam?

  6. Unk on Monday: 16 April 2007|1438

    Ann,

    Nope… I don’t moderate comments at all… The only thing I have in place is of course the standard Akismet plugin that comes with WordPress and if any comment contains a link, it has to be approved.

    99% of the time, legit comments don’t contain links… I don’t care if someone includes a link — I just don’t like spam — of which I receive somewhere in the neighborhood of between 50 and 75 a day…

    And they just keep growing…

    Unk

  7. Ann Wesley Hardin on Tuesday: 17 April 2007|0358

    Oh good cuz I hate moderated comments. They’re so unsatisfying.

    Clive!

  8. Elver on Thursday: 17 January 2008|2023

    I was reading this in PDF the other day and thought I’d have to reply, but was too lazy to find the post. Today I had reason to give a link to this to a good friend of mine. That victim thing is an exact description of the last girl I was seriously involved with. I walked away with a lot less money and permanent physical scars.

    One of her previous boyfriends ended up losing all his friends and choosing celibacy and solitude for life.

    But on the other hand, and this is clearly subjective, I’m pretty sure I’m a much better writer today thanks to all that inhuman suffering.

    I’m thinking of getting a tattoo that says “scars are research”.

  9. Unk on Thursday: 17 January 2008|2032

    Elver,

    It always makes us better…

    Unk

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